|If they can have it...why can't I?|
However, that all changed because of two personal experiences in 2000, though the realization took place later. The first one involved a fellow Cub Scout who had wanted to lead our patrol on a weekend camp-out, but didn't win the election. He ended up proving he was not leader material when he had three separate meltdowns that Saturday. One was during a box maze; another was on a rope bridge; and, the "grand finale" was at our campsite, which was because he was "homesick." Never at any other point in my life have I ever been happier that someone I voted for did not win. He apparently thought he could do anything else the other Scouts could do, but he was wrong. Later that year, I was attending a sports day camp at a local Baptist church with another Cub Scouting buddy, and was able to ride there and back with him and his family...until the last day, when some friend of theirs, whom I didn't know, picked them up. I knew about it beforehand, and my brother-in-law was able to pick me up; however, when I rode there with said friend, he and his siblings were all carrying tennis gear for after the camp session. On the way home, I lamented to my brother-in-law about missing out on what they were doing, and he simply said, "What do you care? Since when have you been into tennis?"
|I missed it...but I DON'T regret it!|
You may think that, with all the talk about me being original and unique, I don't want anything anybody else has. How many times have you heard or read me say something to the effect of one of these phrases?:
- I'm going to like what I want to like, and I don't care what anyone else has to say about it!
- Why are people unfriending me because of my constant references to _______? Don't they realize that ________ makes me happy in the same way that others' relationships make them happy, which is why they bombard their Facebook friends with posts about them?
- It's not a good idea for me to ________. Here's why:
- So what if whoever or whatever wants to take away what I like? I'm not going to give him, her, or them that power!
- If you don't like the constant references to _______...there's the door! No one is forcing you to stay on my friends list!
- ________ had a well-meaning suggestion, but, when I refused, his/her insistence made it turn into harassment.
|Did ALL of my peers have tons of these? No!|
The same is true of relationships: Though many of my friends around my age are in serious ones, there are still right many who are not only single, but always have been. Still others have had significant others, but continue to have problems because they chose the wrong people to date. I can't honestly sit there and say that all my coeval friends have found "the one" for them...because, when I really stop and think about it, that isn't true!
I will end by saying this: It's no secret that my tastes in pretty much everything are different. People all over the world love theme parks, pets, beaches/pools, and sports...but I can't stand them, and want as little to do with them as possible. Not only that, but, you'd be hard-pressed to find another adult--of any age--who likes Disney Channel and Nickelodeon productions, contemporary Christian music, libraries, books, superhero cartoons, and reality competition shows...yet, I like them all. That right there is why I have a broad group of friends; most people can find one or two things in common with me, because my interests are that diverse. However, it makes it impossible for me to find a social group, because my intense despising of what "everyone else" likes means that I won't join them on an outing involving any of that. Even more to the point, it also makes it quite hard to find a significant other, because very few people are going to truly respect such tastes in anyone. I've experienced incidents where friends would appear to be fine with my interest or lack thereof in something, only to say the exact opposite after an altercation would arise. Though some of those people may be still among my friends, I have a feeling that not only do they still feel that way, but there are others--including potential dates--who would agree, but aren't saying anything. I've said it before, and I'll say it again: If you don't truly respect my preferences, I can't see why you would consider me a friend in the first place.