|NOTE: Actual Mrs. Russo not pictured.|
However, as serious as Coach was, I honestly laugh every time I think about that incident. Why? Simply because, less than four years after they said, "I do," the Russos divorced. I don't know all of the details--frankly, they're none of my business--but, for Coach to go from telling me not to talk about his wife to no longer having a wife in well under half a decade's time is simply laughable. Of course, divorces happen; they were happening even back in Bible times. Still, it's incidents like that and others--mostly involving friends or other people I've personally known--that make it difficult to take marriage seriously. Another couple I knew got married when I was in middle school, only to be separated well before I finished high school and eventually ended up--you guessed it!--divorced. Other couples I've known have done everything from split up once their kids moved out, to go from leaving their spouses to having new fiancees in a mere year or two, surprising right many of their friends. It just seems to be happening left and right, and not just in Tinseltown.
I mention that because many grown-ups attitudes towards Pokémon echo my feelings about marriage. Though I know what I've heard people say about the topic, I'm pretty much an outsider, and don't really know what it's like to be married or even in a serious relationship; it's hard for me to understand what romantically involved folks go through on a daily basis. When I see people's marriages turning out to be fads--that is, they're short-lived--it makes me wonder why they even got involved in the first place. It's easy for me to criticize what those in relationships do, because I don't ever find myself in such situations, and the writing on the wall says I may never at all. There's been a recent meme on Facebook that uses the mishaps of celebrities ranging from Elizabeth Taylor to Larry King to Britney Spears to Tiger Woods as an argument against the sanctity of marriage; I can agree that, despite its divine institution, it has become a very big joke. The splits of countless couples I personally know or have known only augments the point. Even when couples don't split up, marriage is still poked fun at; how many times have we seen movies or TV shows--especially sitcoms--that focus on problems between spouses? I'll tell you right now that I have seen married couples fight in real life, and it is not the least bit funny...yet, that didn't stop Tim and Jill Taylor's disagreements from being punctuated by a laugh track! Other sources--including non-entertainment ones--liken marriage to being a punishment or an otherwise not good thing. With all of that...how on earth can I take it seriously? Half of the people involved in it don't seem to!
I will conclude by saying this: I know that many of you reading this probably are married or otherwise romantically involved. I don't want you to think that I look down on you because of your relationship status; I don't feel that way at all. In fact, I did a post about a year ago that talked about how entertainment was my significant other, because I talk about it often, spend most of my spare time with it, and even work with it at my job; one I specifically chose, that is. Still, for most people, that's hard to understand; they've never had a "relationship" with an abstract entity. Well, guess what? I've never had a romance with another human being; I have just as much trouble understanding your romantic situation as you do mine! It's difficult to understand a situation that's not your own; when my oldest sister--who was severely disabled, mind you--was alive, people used to wonder why my mom was doing what she did. When my mother started a day care in her own house after being unable to find reliable care for my eldest sibling, people would ask questions such as, "Why don't you get a job as a substitute nurse?" They didn't understand what it was like to have a kid like my oldest sister; those of you who have kids or other family members with disabilities probably feel her pain. When it comes to marriage, I'm just as much of an outsider; part of me just doesn't get it, whereas another part of me just says to let the married folks do what they're going to do. Maybe I'll understand someday...but, these days, I'm doubting that more than ever.